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Are you at risk from Domestic Violence?
You need a Safety Plan!

Another problem of concern:
Workplace Intimidation and Harassment.

Stopping Violence begins with children, and often starts with
Animal Abuse.

Sexual Abuse Information for and about Children

Online Resources

Warning List of Abusive Behaviors

This list identifies a series of behaviors typically demonstrated by batterers and abusive people. All of these forms of abuse, psychological, economic, and physical, come from the batterer's desire for power and control. The list can help you recognize whether you or someone you know is in a violent relationship. The more items that apply to your situation the more dangerous it is and the more immediate your need to request help. Nationwide, toll-free, twenty-four hour, assistance numbers are listed at the end of this section.

Emotional and Economic Attacks

  • Destructive Criticism/Verbal Abuse:
    • name-calling; mocking
    • accusing; blaming; yelling; swearing
    • making humiliating remarks or gestures.
    • Pressure Tactics:
    • rushing you to make decisions through
    • "guilt-tripping" and other forms of intimidation
    • sulking
    • threatening to withhold money
    • manipulating the children
    • telling you what to do
  • Abusing Authority:
    • Always claiming to be right (insisting statements are "the truth," using "logic")
    • telling you what to do
    • making big decisions
  • Disrespect:
    • interrupting; changing topics; not listening or responding
    • twisting your words
    • putting you down in front of others
    • saying bad things about your friends and family
  • Abusing Trust:
    • lying
    • withholding information
    • cheating on you
    • being overly jealous
  • Breaking Promises:
    • not following through on agreements
    • not taking a fair share of responsibility
    • refusing to help with child care or housework
  • Emotional Withholding:
    • not expressing feelings
    • not giving support, attention, or compliments
    • not respecting feelings, rights, or opinions
  • Minimizing, Denying & Blaming:
    • making Light of behavior and not taking your concerns about it seriously
    • saying the abuse didn't happen
    • shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
    • saying you caused it
  • Economic Control:
    • interfering with your work or not letting you work
    • refusing to give you or taking your money
    • taking your car keys or otherwise
    • preventing you from using the car
    • threatening to report you to welfare or other social service agencies
  • Self-Destructive Behavior:
    • abusing drugs or alcohol
    • threatening suicide or other forms of self-harm
    • deliberately saying or doing things that will have negative consequences (e.g., telling off the boss)
  • Isolation:
    • preventing or making it difficult for you to see friends or relatives
    • monitoring phone calls
    • telling you where you can and cannot go
  • Harassment:
    • making uninvited visits or calls
    • following you
    • checking up on you
    • embarrassing you in public
    • refusing to leave when asked
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Acts of Violence

  • Intimidation:
    • making angry or threatening gestures
    • use of physical size to intimidate
    • standing in doorway during arguments
    • out shouting you
    • driving recklessly
  • Destruction:
    • destroying your possessions (e.g.,furniture)
    • punching walls
    • throwing and/or breaking things
  • Threats:
    • making and/or carrying out threats to hurt you or others
  • Sexual Violence:
    • degrading treatment based on your sex or sexual orientation
    • using force or coercion to obtain sex or perform sexual acts
  • Physical Violence:
    • being violent to you, your children, household pets or others
    • slapping; punching; grabbing; kicking; choking; pushing; biting; burning; stabbing; shooting; etc.
  • Weapons:
    • use of weapons
    • keeping weapons which frighten you
    • threatening or attempting to kill you or those you love

For Help and information on a local shelter, 24 hours a day, call:
1-800-799-7233 / TDD: 1-800-787-3224

Texas Coalition Against Family Violence

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If you are a child visiting this page, the first thing you need to know is that you are not alone. One in three girls and one in five boys is sexually assaulted before the age of 18. Perhaps more important for you to know is that it is not your fault. You deserve to be helped and there is help out there.

Check the list above. Many of the behaviors are important no matter what your age, but, if you are a minor and are experiencing any of the following behaviors, get help immediately!

If there is no one close to ask for help or if you need more help than you are getting, these groups are there to help you.


Incest and Sexual Abuse

How to know if you are a victim of sexual abuse. Have you been:
  • Fondled, kissed, or held for an adult's sexual gratification.
  • Forced to perform oral sex on an adult or sibling.
  • Raped or otherwise penetrated.
  • Made to watch sexual acts.
  • Forced to listen to excessive talk about sex.
  • Fondled or hurt genitally while being bathed.
  • Subjected to unnecessary medical treatments, such as daily
    enemas, to satisfy an adult's sadistic or sexual needs.
  • Shown sexual movies or other pornographic materials.
  • Made to pose for seductive or sexual photographs.
  • Involved in child prostitution or pornography.
  • Forced to take part in ritualized abuse in which you were
    physically, psychologically, or sexually tortured.

If any of the above information pertains to you, get help, tell an adult you trust and keep telling until someone helps you. Remember that the person you tell is not the one who decides if you need help. You are. So, if that person doesn't help keep asking. If you have been threatened by your abuser you need to know that the abuser is powerless once the abuse has been found out.

Groups that help:

Thanks to Cynthia Bryant cynthiabryant@home.com for information on this page. Cynthia is an abuse survivor.

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RESOURCES ONLINE

The American Bar Association's Commission on Domestic Violence

The Family Violence Prevention Fund

The Montgomery Work/Life Alliance's Workplace Domestic Violence Manual

Safe Horizon's Domestic Violence Shelter Tour and Information Site

The United States Department of Health and Human Services, Healthfinder, Domestic Violence

The United States Department of Justice's Violence Against Women Office

SilentTears—A community against abuse

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The following information is from The Humane Society of the United States

(HSUS) First Strike Program

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Over the last 25 years, many studies in psychology, sociology and criminology have demonstrated that violent offenders frequently have childhood and adolescent histories of serious and repeated animal cruelty. The FBI has recognized this connection since the 1970s, when its analysis of the lives of serial killers suggested that most had, as children, killed or tortured animals.

Far more prevalent, animal cruelty is frequently an indicator in cases of domestic violence, child abuse, and elder abuse. In response to recent studies indicating a strong correlation between animal abuse and family violence, communities across the United States are taking animal abuse seriously and developing innovative programs designed to provide early identification and intervention for violent perpetrators.

The HSUS's First Strike™ Campaign

The Humane Society of the United States (HSUS) launched the First Strike campaign in 1997 with two main goals: to increase public and professional awareness of the connection between animal cruelty and human violence and to encourage professionals involved in anti violence efforts to work together.

Since the campaign began in 1997, The HSUS has conducted hundreds of First Strike workshops around the country, bringing together social workers, animal protection workers, law enforcement, educators, prosecutors, judges, veterinarians, and concerned citizens to facilitate the development of coordinated community responses to violence against all living things.

In addition, the First Strike campaign continues to monitor cases of animal cruelty across the country and press for the passage of well enforced, felony-level anti cruelty laws.


    Ascione, F. and Arkow, P. (1999) Child Abuse, Domestic Violence and Animal Abuse. West Lafayette, IN: Purdue University Press. To order, call Purdue Press toll free at (800) 933-9637. Cloth $54.95, Paper $27.95.

    Lewchanin, S., Psy.D. and Zimmerman, E. (2000). Community Intervention in Juvenile Animal Cruelty and Clinical Assessment of Juvenile Animal Cruelty. Bunswick, ME; Biddle Publishing Company and Audenreed Press. To order using a credit card, check out the web site at www.biddle-audenreed.com or call 1-888-315-0582, 9-5 Eastern time.

    Lockwood, R. and Ascione, F. (1998) Cruelty to Animals and Interpersonal Violence. West Lafayette, IN; Purdue University Press. To order, call Purdue Press toll free at (800) 933-9637. Cloth $56.95, Paper $29.95.

    Raphael, P., Colman, L. and Loar, L. (1999) Teaching Compassion: A Guide for Humane Educators, Teachers and Parents. Almeda, CA; The Latham Foundation; . http://www.latham.org/shop/prodserv.asp

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